So Josh and I are just waiting….which is actually a big relief that all the circus of paperwork is over and we are enjoying life and our time together.
When we first began the adoption process, the parents would get a Number once they were officially done with the paperwork process. This number has some immediate gratification because it seemed a tangible piece of info as to where we were in line. The number is almost like the number you get when waiting at a Deli….yep, that is my comparison…but its true! However the number did not give an accurate picture because a parent that had #150 could be waiting for an infant, where a person with the number of #155 could be waiting for an older child and #155 could be matched FAR earlier than #150, which could be confusing and disheartening for a parent with a number to not feel like they really understand their wait time. There is so much criteria that a person could have chosen when filing out the adoption paperwork. For example, Boy or Girl or Either; Age; open to siblings; open to special needs; open to minor or correctable special needs; and so on.
Josh and I are open to a Boy or a Girl between the age of 0 to 12 months, and we are open to minor or correctable special needs. So if a set of parents is only open to a Boy, and a baby girl comes up for a match Josh and I are going to “cut in line” and get our match sooner. Bottom-line is, the number system was not the most effective and was recently eliminated. Although this takes away the immediate gratification of knowing we are a certain number, then getting updates as our number nears the front of the line, the new system is actually better. We get monthly updates as to what children were matched with parents, what the details of the children are in terms of age and siblings, but more importantly, when the official Dossier (waiting start date) was approved. Ours was in June.
Below is the update we got at the beginning of August for the July matches. Typically those waiting for a baby like Josh and I, have a longer wait time.
JULY 2013 REFERRAL UPDATE
- Infant girl (Dossier approved December 21, 2010)
- Toddler boy (Dossier approved October 18, 2011)
- Older boy (Dossier approved September 14, 2012)
- Older boy (Dossier approved March 8, 2013)
- Older Sibling group (Dossier approved July 22, 2013)
- Older Sibling group (Dossier approved August 6, 2013)
- Older sibling group (Dossier in process)
It is exciting to get these updates but of course is a disheartening reminder at times as to how long our wait will be. In the meantime, Josh and I are loving being married, especially now that I am out of school! We are planning trips and eating dinners together 🙂
One of the hardest things in my life, spiritually and personally is to “just be.” Psalm 46:10 says “Be still, and know that I am God.” This waiting time is a time of preparation and a time to be.
My times are in Your hands; deliver me from the hands of my foes and those who pursue me and persecute me. Psalm 31:15